Tired of being sad and want to be happier? Are you annoyed being bullied by fellows? Or you may feel bored and unhappy about the uncertainty of life. Or maybe life is not going the way you want it to be. With the passage of time, we become tired and want to feel happy again. We start asking questions to ourselves:
- Why I am not happy with myself? Can I make myself happy again?
- Can I be happy with myself?
- Is it possible to be happy and positive all the time?
- Can I learn to be happy?
- Can I live a happy life?
And the answer is YES. There are many ways to be happy and healthy. And you might be surprised that the secret of your happiness is YOU. The more you value yourself, the more you build confidence and become happy.
The key to the happiness of happy people is the way they treat themselves. They do some positive things for themselves each day. They are assertive and have the courage to say NO to things when they need to. They do not allow people to cross boundaries they set for themselves.
Let’s find out how to be a better person and be happy. Here are the most important and best ways to a happy life.
1. Self-Acceptance Keeps you Happy
YOU need YOU. Yes, self-acceptance keeps you happy and make you able to love yourself. Your physical appearance, your voice, and your skills are unique. Whenever you are bullied by your class-fellows or mates about your eyes or height, use positive talk. And give you a message that being happy with yourself you accept yourself. You are the Best the way you are.
ACTION: It is very important to maintain a positive attitude about yourself. Positive self-talk will allow you to accept yourself as you are. Give yourself positive messages like, “I Love Who I Am. I am completely fine what I am.”
2. Be Careful about your Internal Tone of Voice
Remember! Happy mind happy life.
Sometimes we criticize ourselves too much in your own heads. This negative thinking pattern is enough to destroy your internal peace and happiness. Self-criticism in a negative way snatched your self-respect and confidence away. This is how you make yourself depressed.
ACTION: So start loving yourself and stop talking to yourself in negative terms.
3. Give yourself Space and Admit your Faults
Focus on YOUR STRENGTHS
No one is perfect, Right! Sometimes we make mistakes and this is the way we learn. This is the time when we ask a question to ourselves how to be happy with me. Mistakes are the signs that we are growing, learning new things and exploring new opportunities for personal growth.
ACTION: If you made a mistake, don’t dwell on it. Move forward. Learn from your mistake and move on. Stay happy.
4. Acknowledge Your Good qualities
Whenever you are feeling dissatisfied, focus on your past achievements.
ACTION: You have spent your life with lots of positive accomplishment. Make a list when you achieved your goals like passing a test, graduation, scrumptious baking and any art piece crafting.
You have lots of good qualities. Focus on them and grow for a better tomorrow.
5. Look for the opportunities for personal growth
Believe it that happiness is not something material which you can buy but these are your internal qualities and your belief in your well-being that make you happy.
ACTION: Focus on the positive aspects of your life and try to improve those areas which bring dissatisfaction. This way you can increase your well-being.
6. Cherish yourself on Your Achievements
You made a list of your daily goals. Whenever you accomplished any goal celebrate it and cherish yourself. These are the source of our daily happiness. Don’t miss them.
7. One of the Ways to be Happy is Hope
“Hope for the best” is a common saying but it has a deep effect on our lives. It is a big source of happiness and life satisfaction. Your positive thinking will definitely brighten your future.
Action: Believe in yourself and give a message to yourself that even things are not going well but the end result will be good.
Do not let yourself fall into the ditch of self-pity. Be alert about such depressing thoughts and immediately say yourself that “I am hopeful, I know I can’t change many external factors but yes I can at least control my thinking and feelings.”
8. Focus on the Positive aspects of each situation
Life has its own terms and gives us surprises with its diversity. Many people when facing such situations, they focus on the negative aspects of a situation like you lost a job, you have a setback in a personal situation. But there is always a positive aspect.
Action: Look at the positive effects of that situation. Identify how this bad situation can help you to be strong. If you lose your job, then this is the indication of finding a better job that pays more and can lead to a more satisfied and happy life.
9. Be Grateful and Stay Happy
Gratefulness and contentment are the keys to be happy and positive all the time.
Action: Make a list you are grateful for like health, family, friends, home, job, pets, partner, safety and wisdom. Be contented what you have. There are millions of people wishing what you have today. Use your skills and wisdom to get the best out of every situation. Being content with yourself and keep yourself happy.
10. Forgive Others. Don’t be Resentful and Stay Happy Always
Everyone has their own perspective. When our expectations from them do not fulfill then we became angry. Anger is two-way emotion, one is we express to others and the other is our internal turmoil. The inner anger or resentments are lethal. Resentments drain your energy and you start feeling that you are not happy with life.
Remember, Happy Mind Happy Life. This is you, ONLY YOU can make yourself happy.
ACTION: Let Go, and give people space that they can make mistakes. They can have a different opinion. Do not bottle up your emotions because when you do so, they come bursting out in destructive ways like anger and violence.
Express your feelings in a healthy way, balanced way and assertive way.
11. Own your Positive and Negative Emotions
Your feelings and emotions are yours. Happy people accept their painful emotions such as fear, anger, sadness, and stress. They do not hold other people responsible for their negative emotions.
ACTION: Accept and own your emotions that this is you going through anger. Do not say that that person made me angry. NO, YOUR emotions are solely yours. When you own your emotions, this way you can feel more balanced and stay happy always.
12. Avoid Negative and Hateful People Around You
Avoid those people who harm your inner peace. Those negative people never appreciate your achievements. They always focus on your weak points. Do not trust such people. Make new friends, be in touch with sincere family members and friends.You should share your feelings with your trusted fellows only.